Welcome to Wednesday and Day 3 of our FB Clean-up! I hope you are starting to notice some positive changes in your newsfeed. If not, you probably will after today. 😉 If you are just joining us, you can find the Day 1 in our series HERE, and Day 2 HERE. 🙂
Today is one of the tougher days, but also the day you will probably see the most results. It’s “Friends Day”. Or maybe it’s “Unfriends Day”. This was a huge process for me when I cleaned up my account.
For a year I was working with a direct sales company that pushed adding friends every day. Add people for any reason, friends of friends, people who liked the same things on FB, you name it, we added them (if they’d have us). It was crazy folks! I ended up with over 1,800 “friends”! I know for a fact I don’t even know that many people!
Now, even though I got rid of a lot of friends, there are some that I can’t get rid of because, well, family. But maybe I don’t appreciate what they post. Maybe its negative, or filled with profanity (although, those I usually remove anyhow), or I just don’t want to see their ____ for the 100th time. There is always the option to “unfollow”. This allows you to still be friends, but you won’t see their stuff on your newsfeed. You will have to actually seek out their page to see what they are posting.
As always throughout this process, you will have to use your own guidelines. But I will list mine for reference. Mine is pretty strict because my marriage is my main priority and I don’t want any misconstrued information on FB.
#1 – Do I know you? No seriously, if you don’t know who the person is let them go. Maybe you don’t want some stranger looking at the pics of your kids, or cats, or both.
#2 – Males. I have two reasons men can be on my FB friend list. a) they are a single friend and are friends with both my husband and I (although I leave most of our single guy friends to him). b) they are married and I am also friends on FB with their wife (although usually in this case, just stay friends with the wife).
#3 – How do you feel? Really, it’s an honest question. Do you have “that friend” who you look at their posts and it makes you feel poorly of yourself in some way? Is it the way they look or the things they have? On the flip side, do you have “that friend” that you can always peek in on to feel better about yourself? Feel like you have it more together or have nicer things? If so, you might also want to consider letting them go. It’s not good to compare yourself to others for either purpose. It’s hard to be thankful for what you have if you feel you are superior or inferior to someone else. (But that is a whole blog post in itself 😉 ).
#4 – Keep in contact. Is the only contact with this person through FB? And I don’t mean this is the only means of communication with them and you interact regularly. I mean, if it wasn’t for FB would this person even be apart of your life? Are you “friends” without interaction? Then it may be time to cut the clutter and move on. You can catch up at your high school reunion. 😉
#5 – Kids. Having a teen daughter means having a lot of teen kids on my page. Which is fine, and I try to be friends with their parents as well since I think it’s weird otherwise. But that’s just a personal preference for me. (Okay, well I guess technically all of these are personal preferences ha ha)
By cutting out the “friends” that don’t make sense for you, you will see more of what you want to see on your feed and interact with those you really want to. I remember way back when I first signed up for an account. It was just to keep family and close friends updated on my daughter and our little family. It is nice to be working our way back to that again. ❤
Be sure and come back let me know how your friends list de-cluttering went!